You are a SUPERHERO
Like most children, I guess, I had the image of the superhero imprinted on my mind from a very early age.
Growing up I loved comic books and used to spend hours reading them over and over again.
I submerged myself into an imaginary world where I would become the hero of the story. I was near impossible to defeat and if I was ever defeated I was always strong enough to come back and eventually, my goodness would always overcome evil.
As a child, reading these comic books led me to believe that I was something special, that I had some sort of hidden magical power that one day would manifest itself from inside of me and allow me to become the superhero I knew I could be, one who would change the world.
As I became older I began doubting myself and started to listen to people telling me that I was just normal. I began to lose my imagination and got bogged down with work, with parenting, with health, until there was no such thing as Superman or Wonder Woman only supervillains The Taxman and Rent Women.
But let me tell you something about you and me that you might not hear all the time; we are SPECIAL so we have to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves down and get ready to become the superheroes in our own life and in the lives of our children who are waiting for them to appear.
As a parent or carer, we do have the ability to shape the world by reclaiming our own unique superpowers which are likely to be based on the following characteristics.
Children model what they see, and when we parent with patience, we model respect, empathy, security and good self-esteem. These are the characteristics we want to foster in our children. These are the experiences that teach our children how to be present and intimate, not only with themselves but also with others.
So, when we “Stop, Look and Listen” to our children, we show them that they are important, that we believe in them and that we have empathy and compassion for their feelings. Active listening is based on patience and leads to the confidence needed for self-mastery. And finally, patience encourages not just empathy and compassion, but also competence.
You cannot teach someone how to write a proper introductory paragraph, much less an entire essay, without practice. No good teacher allows only one draft.
Parenting requires the same level of repetition. How many times a day do parents remind their children to say, “You’re welcome” or to take their plates to the kitchen sink, or to put their books back on the shelf, or that the tag goes in the back of the shirt?
It’s not wasted breath. It’s a reinforcement of an idea that will nest in their minds and eventually become second nature. We might feel like parrots, but we know that one day it will sink in so we continue past the point of no return.
Discipline is not only good for children, but it is also necessary for their happiness and well-being. Discipline is as vital for healthy child development as nutritious food, physical and cognitive exercises, love and other basic needs. Without discipline, children lack the tools necessary to navigate relationships and challenges in life such as self-discipline, respect for others and the ability to cooperate with their peers.
Contrary to what some parents may mistakenly believe, children who are not regularly disciplined are not happy. In fact, failure to discipline children often results in kids who are unhappy, angry and even resentful. To those around them, children who are not disciplined will be unpleasant company and a child without discipline may find it difficult to make friends.
Teaching your child to forgive is one of the hardest tasks you will face as a parent. Find out why it’s so important and what you can do to make this part of your little one’s learning. Forgiving and asking for forgiveness are the keys to finding happiness and inner peace. They are also the perfect combination to achieve healthy family relationships, friendships and even long-lasting businesses.
As parents, we don’t often see the results of our efforts when our hearts need it most. There are long, dark days when we feel as though our kids have stolen our marbles and hidden them for good. But when our children finally share or help another child on the playground, and we glimpse the kind of adults, spouses and parents we hope they’ll grow up to be, we’re reminded that the small stuff really does matter.
These are just some of the powers we as parents have, the full list is endless.
The reality is we all have the power to change the world, it’s whether or not we want to do anything about it or not.
Change starts with us, with you and me.
Our children are like young superheroes that haven’t realised their potential to change the world, they don’t know now how to harness their true form and it’s down to us as parents or carers to show the children that they have the ability to be whatever they want to be.
These powers aren’t super strength or invisibility, they might not even be superintelligence, these powers are in all of us. They are our ability to help others, to be kind, to be honest, our ability to learn from each other, to overcome setbacks. These are the true superpowers that will allow your child to reach their full potential and help others to reach theirs.
So, the next big superhero film you take your children to see, hold your chest high and know that you are the biggest superhero your child will ever know, they just don’t get to see your costume except in their dreams.
I don’t know the answer to everything and I am just saying how I see things. But what I would like is your help to create a community that matters. A community that cares and a community that supports and helps one another.
A few people have already got back to me and we are waiting to set a date so I’m sorry in my slow reply,
Let’s set a date, Let’s take lead, Let’s take control
And let’s make it happen.
Until next time
Have a great day
Thomas Alfred Scannell.